13 Habits My Rich, Happy Friends Do That My Poor, Unhappy Friends Don’t (and the Books That Helped Me Understand This)
A lot of people say they want to be happy, rich, and live a certain lifestyle, but few actually achieve it. Over time, I’ve noticed some clear differences between my friends who do and those who don’t.
This might not be my usual type of content, but I think it’s an important message, and I hope you find it helpful. Here are 13 habits that distinguish my rich, happy friends from the rest, along with some great books that have helped me understand these differences:
1. They Stay True to Their Values
Instead of doing what others want or what they think will make people like them, they’ve worked hard to establish clear boundaries and reflect on their true values.
Recommended Book: Boundaries by Henry Cloud
2. They Envision Their Ideal Life
Rather than going along with the status quo, they actively envision how they want their life to look. Then they take steps to make that vision a reality—even if it means disappointing others along the way.
Recommended Book: Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
3. They Prioritize Time and Experiences Over Things
They focus on investing in non-visible assets like stocks, index funds, or real estate instead of spending on flashy, visible signs of wealth.
Recommended Book: Start Thinking Rich
4. They Replace TV Time with Reading or Meaningful Conversations
Instead of watching TV every night, they read, learn, or connect with others.
Recommended Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear
5. They Relax in Healthy Ways
Instead of drinking multiple beers to unwind after work, they enjoy healthier hobbies, a nutritious dinner, or a single glass of wine.
Recommended Book: Big Vegan Flavor by Nisha Vora
6. They Take Action, Not Just React
Rather than feeling overwhelmed by their to-do lists, they divide and conquer. They’re proactive at work, always planning their next move and thinking of ways to contribute.
Recommended Book: Productivity Ninja by Graham Allcott
7. They Plan Enriching Experiences
Weekends aren’t just for “hanging out”; they’re for meaningful, planned experiences that add value to their lives.
Recommended Book: Plan a Future That Sets You Free by Lara Spadetto
8. They Surround Themselves with Growth-Oriented People
Instead of sticking with default social circles, they actively seek out people with a similar growth-oriented mindset.
Recommended Book: Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen
9. They Embrace Discipline Over Instant Gratification
They prioritize long-term fulfillment over short-term pleasures. Discipline now leads to a more enjoyable life overall.
Recommended Books:
10. They Keep an Open Mind
They avoid assumptions or biases, always striving to understand differing opinions and perspectives.
Recommended Book: Growth Mindset by Carol Dweck
11. They Think Strategically, Not Defeatist
Instead of thinking the system is rigged, they focus on understanding how to navigate it and succeed.
Recommended Book: Millionaire Mindset by Harv Eker
12. They Learn From Successful People
Instead of mocking wealthy or “bougie” people, they compliment them and study how they achieved success.
Recommended Book: Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
13. They Don’t Wait to Enjoy Life
They feel an urgency to live fully now, not just in retirement when it might be too late.
Recommended Book: Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez
Adopting even a few of these habits can make a significant difference in your happiness and success. Which one will you start with today?